Who do you work with?
I specialize in working with queer, non-binary, trans folks, and their allies, often on a journey to release trauma build-up, often chronically ill, or experiencing concurrent health issues, in bodies with many levels of abilities. I’m honored to hold space for my long-term clients who are sometimes on a gender journey, or veterans of many types of therapies who are looking for a healing modality that brings everything they’ve learned together.
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I have clients all over the world. I host community workshops most easily accessed in the Western Hemisphere. I do in-person workshops about rituals, self-care, intimacy, kink as a healing art, and self-kink. I also mentor new Dom/mes and help them understand what draws them to this work and how to do it well. If you’re looking for more on my background, you can find it here.
Kink is inherently somatic in nature. If we decide to play in a power dynamic, I harness the healing ability of kink by combining it with my understanding of how we store trauma in the body, connecting the mind, and tapping into energy flow. I use my skills as an energy practitioner (reiki, cranio sacral, energy medicine), certified Holistic Health Coach, and mental health advocate to create a unique, individual, healing kink experience.
Most of my long-term clients are interested in learning how to be happier, find more meaning in their lives, and feel more connected to themselves and with community. I help them increase their self-care, maybe teach them self-kink, and help them master self-control, possibly through a D/s container. I help students finish grad school or study for the bar. I help teach basic skills to those who never learned them or learned them poorly. I help business owners find time when there is none. I help parents find their footing through a rough patch with their kid. And I help everyone release shame and connect to themselves more deeply and with more care, which creates the opportunity for deeper and more meaningful connections with others.
There are a limited amount of contracts available at a time because of the high-touch nature of the relationship. Contract D/s clients get discounted in-person kink as well as other perks.
I don’t offer discounts for virtual D/s relationships or in-person D/s relationships The only kink discounts given are to clients under contract, specifically for in-person kink sessions. If private and/or in-person time is not in your budget, consider requesting a self-kink workshop with some of your friends and share the cost or signing up for a community workshop.
I do use what I call soft/targeted/focused humiliation as part of a blended mentoring+kink plan *only* after I’ve had weekly mentoring sessions with a client for minimum three monthsin the following ways:
Pet play– forced eating, drinking, playing, resting times
Gender play– loving/light teasing to help expose hidden feelings around gender/sex/body and give those feelings a safe space to surface
Littles/parts play– playtime or messy art projects like finger painting where the child in you gets a chance to delight me
Restrictions– limiting where someone can look, what they can say, or when/how they can say it taps into some types of trauma
Learned postures– perfecting submission postures as a way to earn praise
Begging– getting comfortable with desires and asking for needs requires vulnerability and strength
Furniture– being useful as an object is sometimes a good place to start
Ignoring– removing attention to experience abandonment and heal trauma