Who do you work with?
I specialize in working with queer, non-binary, trans folks, and their allies, who are often on a journey to release years of trauma build-up, are often chronically ill and in physical pain, or are experiencing several concurrent health issues, in bodies with many levels of abilities. I’m honored to hold space for my long-term clients who are sometimes on a gender journey, or veterans of many types of therapies and who are looking for a healing weaving of modalities to bring everything they’ve learned together.
I also use my many accountability talents to work with small business owners who invite me to participate in helping them succeed where they have struggled. I create a structure that makes them feel less alone, holds their time and responsibilities, and also celebrates their wins. I help problem-solve, clarify priorities, and turn broad goals and overwhelming to-do lists into bite-sized, actionable plans.
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I have clients all over the world. I’ve held many in-person workshops about rituals, self-care, intimacy, our parasypathetic nervous system, kink as a healing art**, and self-kink. I also mentor new Dom/mes and help them understand what draws them to this work and how to do it well. If you’re looking for more on my background, you can find it here.
Most of my long-term clients are interested in learning how to be happier, find more meaning in their lives, and feel more connected to themselves and with community. I help them increase their self-care, maybe teach them self-kink, and help them tune-in to self-direction that serves them. I help students finish grad school or study for the bar. I help teach basic skills to those who never learned them or learned them poorly. I help small business owners find time when there is none. I help them succeed where they have failed because of being under-resourced or not understanding how their brain needs to receive and filter information. I joyfully help those small business owners who have felt lonely in their work by being a sounding board, a strategist, and a problem solver with them. I help parents find their footing through a rough patch with their kid. And I help everyone release shame and connect to themselves more deeply and with more care, which creates the opportunity for deeper and more meaningful connections with others.
**Kink is inherently somatic in nature. I’m no longer a practicing Pro Dom, but I can help you understand why you’re drawn to the healing ability of kink by sharing my understanding of how we store trauma in the body, connecting the mind, and tapping into energy flow. I use my skills as an energy practitioner (reiki, cranio sacral, energy medicine), certified Holistic Health Coach, and mental health advocate to create a unique, individual, healing experience that can blend the body’s pain response, if that’s something that works for you.
Delicious! Heart-opening! Fun! Soul-healing! Mind-awakening! Usually hard from time to time! I made some short videos a couple of years ago that show me talking about my work with clients. (They were made pre-T, so expect my voice to be different.) You can view the series here.
We’ll meet virtually once a week or so for a few months or for as long as it takes for you to feel prepared to move forward in your life. If you happen to live local to Seattle or Portland and would like to meet in person, we can do that, too.
I think it’s one of the most valuable healing modalities I’ve ever learned for myself. There are limitations to what can be done according to your abilities and what is physically possible and safe, but there’s lots of good stuff I can show you either privately or in a small group so you can use it as a part of your regular self-care. Modifying for abilities is a beautiful process.