Work with Me

Hello! My name is Leoh Blooms (he/they/she).

I’m a mentor, Pro Dom, and educator who is passionate about learning, sharing, and empowering others to live their best lives. My mentoring focuses on intimacy, mental health, gender, sex, and practical self-care. I help clients understand where these major components of life converge and how our responses to them impact our ability to feel joy and thrive. I use a variety of healing modalities in my mentoring practice with clients including energy work, practical self-care, mind/body connection, trauma/emotional processing, kink (25+), and power dynamics (25+).

As a trauma-informed energy practitioner, certified Holistic Health Coach, and mental health advocate, I hold the journey my clients are navigating as sacred. I am committed to cultural humility and recognize how white supremacy, institutionalized racism, and injustice impact the body/mind and contribute to illness in many forms. I stand behind equity and try daily to do less harm than the day before.

Occupying space as a queer, fluid, trans, non-monogamous human, means I am LGBTQI+, sex, kink, and alternative lifestyles positive and create a shame and stigma-free exploratory environment. I work virtually with people ages 21+ all over the world. You can read my published writing here or view my artwork here.

Working with Leoh has been transformative, during one of the most challenging (but rewarding) years of my life. I started working with them because I’m a late bloomer and only recently came out as queer a few years ago. Figuring out my pronouns at age 40 has been scary and exciting, and I’m still navigating things — but the lessons I’m learning and self-discovery has been profound. The process of always coming out would be so much more difficult without Leoh’s support and the space that they hold for me in our sessions. I’m so, so grateful to have found them online, and the work that I’m doing with them is something that I’ll cherish for a long time. ~R.W.

Curricula

I’ll Meet You Where You Are

Hello, love. I’m so glad you’re here. I’ve spent over a decade creating these study units just for you. I’ve grouped together ideas and put them in order so you can understand yourself better, each concept building on the last. I’ve seen so much growth happen when my clients learn this way and I want that for you, too. Whether you’re more likely to blossom with your day bookended with my face, my voice, and my encouragement, or you’d be more comfortable with less contact and you have a lot of self-drive to carry you through most days, there’s a support level that’s just right for you.

Each area of focus is built as a 3 month unit. Choose the level of support that fits you best or ask me to customize something for you. If I can, I will. Contact me here and let me know what speaks to you from the options below.

Support Levels

Mentoring Track
Full Support $250/week (3 months):

75 min virtual session every week
daily video connection (Marco Polo app)
habit tracker app support with exclusive/custom rewards
online workbook with homework

Partial Extended Support $100/week (6 months):

50 min virtual session every other week
10 min video (Marco Polo app) check-in on the off week
limited texting
online workbook with homework

Pro Dom Track
Full Support $250/week (3 months):

75 min virtual session every week
daily video connection (Marco Polo app)
habit tracker app support with exclusive/custom rewards from Sir
texting
online workbook with homework
optional D/s contract* (if available)

Partial Support $200/week (3 months):

50 min virtual session weekly
daily video connection (Marco Polo app)
habit tracker app support with rewards from Sir
limited texting
online workbook with homework

Curricula

Gender: Gender is a construct, chrononormativity, identified patient and the link to mental health, dysmorphia & dysphoria, attachment styles, break all the rules, where/how to go deeper with your gender, problem solving, the what/when/how/who of it all, finding the words

Body/Self Discovery: Inhabiting the body, relationships, life mapping, what is a compliment, love letters, finding your place, finding confidence, different kinds of energy, complete body system, ableism

Body/Pleasure: What is pleasure and who is it for, anatomy, shame and pleasure, consent and intimacy checklist, objectify yourself, erotica, unapologetic sexuality, reveling in yourself

Focus on Trauma Release: Chronic pain, somatics, toning, body & mind, working with what exists, ableism and bypassing, creativity, loving your whole self, parts work

Kink 101: What is kink and what’s it for, history of kink, separating sex & kink, recognizing power dynamics, pain response and self-harm, safe(r) kink, implements and toys, using D/s energy, Top/bottom/switch, attachment styles in kink, FFFF in kink & shame response, safe(r) pick-up play, scene basics, be your own Daddy

Kink & D/s: What makes you tick, target areas of your life that need support, trap of the past creating the present, change how your brain works, work around for triggers, intentionality can change your life, parasympathetic nervous system and boundaries, learning to observe, self-intimacy, True consent, relationships 24/7, rupture and repair

Submission: Recognizing power dynamics, pain response and self-harm, motivations, types of submission, how to get what you want and need while staying in the bottom, attachment styles, FFFF in kink & shame response, better kink and relationships, 24/7 dynamics, contract basics

Dom Level 1: Understand yourself and motivations, chrononormativity, temperature changes, gender, religion, & sexualized bodies, daily ritual and intentional lives, expansion and contraction, observing self, intimacy spreadsheet, true consent, rupture & repair, better/safer relationships, write a scene

Dom Level 2: Basic 5, fairytale breakdown (24/7), creativity in self-care, sadist/masochist, beauty in submission, soul-investigation, deeper on codependency, how to build relationships, layered scene building, contract basics, skill practice

You can contact me here to get started.

*A D/s contract with Sir Blooms (limited slots available) is a powerful tool which outlines specific agreements between both parties, is only available after a 3-month trial period, and must be renewed every 3 months by the agreement of both Sir Blooms and the client. The intention of a contract is to help clients feel held, contained, and focused on their goals of self-improvement by understanding explicitly what is expected of them and what happens if those contracted goals are not met.

Contracts come with D/s symbolic items like cuffs/collars, chosen pet names, weekday morning and evening check-ins via texts or video, access to Higher Support which includes the possibility of weekend connections, Top Tier rewards with Sir, Findomming, and discounted in-person kink sessions after 3 months.

Mentoring Ages 21-25+

Together we’ll work on creating your Adulting Handbook which includes your Personal Manifesto, life skills (like how to rent your first apartment or pay your taxes or get a job you love), how to problem solve and reach goals, and what kinds of relationships you want (and who you want to be in them).

Typically we also explore attachment styles, boundaries, love languages, and work through trauma and habits/coping skills that no longer serve you. It is common for our work to encompass the challenges of neurodiversity, self-harm, disordered thinking around bodies and food, gender exploration, addictions, suicidal ideation, and self-care.

Ultimately, I support you in choosing how you want your life to be and help equip you with tools to make that happen.

(If you are a parent of someone in this age group and you’d like to reach out to me about working with them, please contact me. I’m not taking new clients younger than 21 but I’m happy to work with their parents.)

As someone who has battled with mental health herself, there’s nothing that you can say to Leoh that will shock or illicit any judgement. This is exactly what is so special about them. Being met exactly where you are with a deep understanding of self care and healing from someone who has been through it and come out the other end has been indispensable for me. I have not met anyone else who has been so supportive, caring, intuitive and understood exactly where I was coming from. Working with Leoh has taught me how to take better care of myself. ~R.G.

Mentoring Ages 25+

Hi. Are you feeling overextended, gloomy or fuzzed out, in over your head, like you’re treading water, in a pickle, or any other idiom that describes someone scrabbling for purchase on the ledge of sane living? I can help by building support structures for you to grow in, while we create a life you don’t have to hide or escape from. First, go take a look at the curricula I’ve created just for you. Then, contact me here and let me know what speaks to you.

It is common for folks who work with me to be struggling with a type of neurodiversity, existing in a phase of life that is in flux or feels ungrounded, living in reaction states, struggling with isolation and/or addiction, and generally feeling like their life is unmanageable and out of control.

Together we’ll work explore who you are, what you need, and how you naturally give and receive love, understand the world, and feel best moving through life. You need to be able to solidly understand how all of your parts work, and how they work together, before others can learn how to make your system purrr. I like the metaphor of an owner’s manual for your body because you should be the one who knows the most about you, and literally own your own body, with everything spelled out clearly. Then you can hand it over to someone else for limited use in all the ways that feel good to you. When we talk about healthy sex, we sometimes forget that we have to have our own healthy sex first. When trauma is a factor, it’s infinitely more important that you understand your needs before inviting another human into the mix!

Common themes are gender journeys, reparenting and/or embracing adulthood, attachment styles, practical self-care (feeding, watering, sleeping, movement, joy), trauma work and emotional processing, mental health issues, Highly Sensitive traits, boundaries, and many forms of instability.

The amount of support and structure you need and ask for dictates how we build our work together. That could mean anything from weekly 50-min sessions that include homework, to multi-daily connections that keep you on track. I can customize a program just for you. Contact me here.

It’s been great to work with someone who has a really deep, compassionate understanding of queer experiences and elements of kink culture and how it has an impact on other areas of life. I feel really seen and we’re working together to create a tailor-made toolkit for me to use to make my life better. I feel completely safe in the sessions and feel I can raise any topic or say anything at all with no fear of judgement. I have made huge progress in the last 6 months and now have so many better coping mechanisms at my disposal. We’ve used some elements of kink (Dom/sub interactions) to investigate my behaviour and understand my motivations and needs. We’ve looked at how this dynamic can spread into other areas of life, such as work, and relationship with family and friends. It’s been a really useful tool in understanding my emotional reactions to a whole range of situations. I’ve learned to recognise and understand some longstanding behaviour patterns that I hadn’t noticed I was repeating. I now feel like I know what’s behind them, what they mean, what my underlying motivations are, and what reward systems I had set up in my brain. ~F.R.

Nurturing Through Healing Arts Video Series

You can view the entire series by clicking here.